In therapy, Chet recalled his mother criticizing him incessantly for eating too fast, picking his nose, not using correct table manners, leaving his toys out, and so on. The arrival of Chet’s younger sister signalled a ratcheting up of Nancy’s scapegoating of him. Three years later she gave birth to a daughter – Nathalie – who was much more compliant and admiring towards Nancy. Her son – Chet – was willful, loving, good-hearted, playful and tough. She decided that she wanted to be a mother and gave birth to a son. His response was to grow more accomodating and ingratiating to her. She would yell at her husband nightly that he was not communicating enough with her. She married a man who was passive in their relationship and quickly set about triangulating with her ex-boyfriend. In relationships, she ensnared men into taking care of her monetarily and emotionally while complaining that they never appreciated all that she does for them. She transferred to a different school district and was able to continue her clandestine cruelty against new students. At one point her principal brought her up on disciplinary charges for “mistreating” one of her students. Meanwhile she would select one student in each of her classes to harass, control, and undermine. She became a special education teacher after college and curated an image of a nurturing, patient and kind woman. Her face turned to a snarl and she screamed at him for breaking it. Her younger brother one time accidentally broke a ceramic doll of hers and was bleeding profusely. She told her classmates in fourth grade that she had cancer “to get attention”.
His mother, Nancy, seemed to have cruelty in her heart from an early age.
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